Anger: friend or foe?

May22

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Most people express anger in one of five ways.

  1. The avoider.
  2. The passive-agressive.
  3. The exploder.
  4. The retaliator.
  5. The high-seeker.

The avoider buries anger. They insist that it takes a lot for them to get angry and that it is better not to get mad, but eventually they explode at the smallest infraction because anger builds.

Passive-aggressives don’t get mad–they get even without ever showing that they are or were angry. They may withhold whatever the other person wants, use the silent treatment or become stubborn and difficult.

The exploder blows his top, rages at everyone in sight then forgets about it and wonders why people are upset with him.

The retaliator deliberately plans when they will become anger. The use anger as a weapon to get what they want. They use it to control, manipulate, threaten and overpower others.

The high-seeker is addicted to the strong feelings that come with anger. They pick fights to get a high–it gives them a rush and a sense of power.

What is anger?

  • Anger is an emotional response to personal violations–when we don’t get what we want, or when our expectations are not met, etc.
  • Not all anger is bad.
  • We should be stirred to anger when we see injustices.
  • Unresolved anger raises blood pressure and other health issues.

God’s Way to deal with anger:

  • Don’t let the sun go down on your anger
  • Pray about your anger. Ask God for clarity as to the root cause to deal with that issue.
  • Communicate. Talk things through when everyone’s emotions have calmed down.
  • Ask God for healing of unresolved, stored anger from past wounds to experience love, joy and peace.
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